In this episode of Digital Parenting Live, we answer a viewer’s question on how to talk to their child about the dangers and consequences of oversharing online. We also talked about the upcoming launch of the Digital Parenting Podcast!
In this episode we reference several news stories that we have included here:
- Harvard Rescinds Admission Of 10 Students Over Obscene Facebook Messages
- Ugly Josh Allen tweets emerge at the worst time
- 76ers part ways with president of basketball operations Bryan Colangelo
Hey, guys. Welcome to Digital Parenting Live for Thursday, June 14th. Now, if you joined us last week, you know that we had a big announcement. Again, our goal here is to help you as parents keep tech from harming your family. And we’re going to take this show, change it up and make it even better because we’re launching the Digital Parenting podcast on Monday, July 9th. Now this podcast, we’re going to pulling in experts, we’re going to be giving you resources, we’re going to be talking through news related to technology that you need to know. And so we are excited for this. So you can go ahead and actually use Google Play, use Apple Podcast, use Stitcher, use TuneIn, whatever you want. Wherever you listen to podcast, go in and search for the Digital Parenting podcast. Go ahead and subscribe so that you can be ready when we launch on Monday, July 9th.
We’re so excited for this. But just as as we do each week here on Digital Parenting Live, let’s go ahead and jump into our viewer question. So it says here, “My teen seems to share everything online. How do I help them understand that this can have consequences?” Now, first of all, let me just say here, one of the things that’s different just from a generational perspective, is this current generation that’s g rowing up in our households, they’re much more used to sharing information online. And so a lot of things that we would just think, hey, it’s not something that you should share online, for them in their generation, this is common and this is normal. But you’re right, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t have consequences.
Let’s look at a few things from the news just in the past few months. So one example of this would be in June of last year, Harvard actually announced that they were resending offers to many incoming freshmen because of things they had found online on social media. In addition, we looked at the NFL draft. There was a draft candidate, Josh Allen, who actually had a lot of tweets uncovered that he made when he was, I believe, 15 and 16 years old that actually affected him. In addition to that, there have been numerous stories given of where people in the job hunting process they actually didn’t get a job because people found things about them online and through social media, that they didn’t think were going to be favorable to their company. And even just in the last week, we had an NBA general manager basically have to resign because of things he had shared online through fake Twitter accounts that weren’t really tied to him.
So again, I think the important message to give here is … And you can even share some of these examples with your kids. We’ll put some links in the show notes so that you can actually read some of these articles yourself, but it is just to understand there are real and lasting impacts. The one thing I want parents to be able to communicate to their kids is everything that you share online, you know what? It’s permanent. Even if you share it on something like Snapchat, or Ask.fm, or other things that supposedly are what we call ephemeral, those things can have staying power. Either sometimes these services can get hacked and this information can be spread out, or even things like the Ashley Madison hack, things that were previously totally private can get exposed. And so that’s one of the core truths we want all parents to share with their kids, is that anything you put online, you need to assume that it is going to be around forever. And if there’s something you wouldn’t want other people to know, you shouldn’t share it online. So you’re right, yes, this absolutely has consequences.
But the other thing I want to encourage parents is, understand that some of this is just a generational difference. And so if your teen is sharing things online that aren’t harmful, that wouldn’t necessarily have any negative repercussions, maybe give them a little bit more flexibility than you have been if you’ve been giving them a hard time about this. But again, educate them that if this is something that they wouldn’t want people finding out, they shouldn’t post in online.
So again, we hope this has been helpful. This is just one of the many ways we’re trying to give you the resources you need to keep technology from harming your family. So join us next week. We’re going to have one more episode of Digital Parenting Live before we transition over and just focus on getting ready for the podcast. But also remember, if you’re not subscribed to our email list, you’re missing valuable information. You can sign up for that at digitalparenting.com. Also be sure you’re connected with us on YouTube, on Facebook, and on Instagram. So again, we hope you guys have a great day and thanks for joining us here for Digital Parenting Live.