In today’s episode of Digital Parenting Live, we answer a viewer’s question on whether it is enough to just block and monitor her child’s internet usage. We get to the heart of this issue on today’s episode.
Hey, guys. Welcome to Digital Parenting Live for April 26th, where we take your questions on technology in the family. So today, we’re going to be taking a question that actually was sent in from a digitalparenting.com viewer. And this, I think, is one that really gets at the heart of what we cover at our live events. So let’s go ahead and dive into that, and then we’ll have some more things to share after. Let me pull up the question here.
So here’s the question. “Is it enough to just block and monitor my kid’s internet activity? I know there are a lot of tools out there, but it seems like I need to prepare my child for what they will encounter in the world.”
Now I really appreciate this kind of question coming in from a parent, because I think we always want to be looking at ultimately, “How are we equipping our kids to deal with the world that they’re going to be in?” And I think even a decade ago, maybe a decade and a half ago, when we were looking at this, it was possible for a parent to potentially block and totally just eliminate their kids’ ability to interact with technology.
Now irrespective of what you believe about topics like addiction, and pornography, and other things that your kids are going to encounter, one of the things here is evident. Your kid is going to be in an environment at some point, where they’re going to be with other kids that probably have unrestricted device access. Or, your kid’s going to be in a setting, whether it be in school, or in church, or in other places, where they’re going to have access to a device that has unrestricted access.
So if that happens, how are they going to react? And this is why when I talk to parents, I really discourage now just this attitude of, “Let’s just block everything. Let’s totally remove technology,” because I don’t think it sets your kids up for success. I think if you want to set your kids up for success, you have to teach them how to live in this world. You’re going to have to teach them how to make decisions on, in some cases, self-regulating the amount of time you spend on devices.
Now we want to help them as much as possible. So every tool that exists to help block, every tool that exists to help limit and filter, those are great and we need those. Those are an essential tool. But you have to rely on those to just be what they are, a tool and not the solution. The solution, and this is the key of everything we talk about at digitalparenting.com, the solution is you. As the parent, you being involved, you having conversations with your kid about this area of their life, so that you can then equip them to exist in this world. Because you can’t block them from everything. There’s now expectations.
I talk to educators quite a bit. We actually have a local educator here, on our board of advisors, and you just hear about how teachers are now incorporating more and more technology into classrooms. And there’s a good reason why. It brings a lot of benefits, and we talk here a lot about the benefits of technology, as well as we talk about the dangers. But your kid is going to run into more and more technology, so you need to figure out how, as a Digital Parent, to equip them for that. Again, like our viewer messaged in here, not just blocking, not just monitoring, but equipping, as well. Using the tools for what they should be used for.
Now a couple things to call out here. First is, if you have questions, like we always say, send them to us. You can send it to firstname.lastname@example.org. You also can message us on any of the platforms that we’re on, whether it be Facebook, Instagram, Twitter. You feel free to connect with us there, and send us your questions, and we will answer them here.
Now a couple of things to call out here. We are super excited because we’re just a little over a week away from our live event in Chattanooga, our biggest event to date, where we’re going to be getting together a lot of parents and giving them the foundation that they need to be Digital Parents. So if you’re anywhere in the Chattanooga area, we would encourage you. You can go to digitalparenting.com, click the little link at the top, and you can get free tickets.
We’re making this totally free because we want to get as many parents onboard as possible. And this is going to be at ChristWay Church here, in the Chattanooga area. So I would encourage all of you to check that out. And if you’re interested in potentially bringing a digitalparenting.com to your organization, whether it be your church, or your school system, or whatever, feel free to go our website at digitalparenting.com and scroll to the bottom. You’ll see there’s a big button there to bring Digital Parenting to your group.
We’d love to hear from you about opportunities for that. So again, this is Digital Parenting Live for April 26th. Feel free to send us questions. Hope you guys have a great rest of your day.